Thursday, October 31, 2013
Anybody can say "I love you". But how many people really mean it? The fact is for every 2 or 3 people that you'll meet in your lifetime who make this seemingly sencere proclaimation, there will be quite a few more who will lie to you just to get what they want. Their love changes like the weather and blows like dust in the wind whenever it's convenient for them.
Ask yourself if this man only loves you when he's inside of you. Or if this woman only loves you on pay day.
If these are the only times that these people express their love for you, then they don't really love you, and your significant other doesn't think that you are significant at all.
They love you for what you can do and not for who you are.
Those who really love, and who are in love with you, will love you even when you feel like you have no love left. When your broke, sick, and running on empty they will still treat you like gold, and truely love you for who you are.
Monday, October 28, 2013
Life has its ups and downs. Some days are perfect and some days are not so perfect. So what do you do when your mate has a less than perfect day?
The first thing that you should do is listen. Listen without saying a word. Keeping in mind that hearing and listening or two totally different things. It's just that simple.
Beyond that, there is nothing that can end a rough day like a warm lavender bubble bath, soft spa music, and a deep tissue massage.
Ignite the fire that melts their stress away.
Sunday, October 27, 2013
It is impossible to go forward looking back, there is no progress going in reverse, and there is always a reason why things don't work out. Stop trying to squeeze a square peg into a round hole, and thank God that it wasn't worse. Your breakthrough is right around the corner. But not the one behind you.
Friday, October 25, 2013
I've often heard about people say that they have no luck with love, or no luck in love.
In my opinion, the concept of "luck" does not exist. It is no more than foolish notion closely related to hope. It's almost as if your leaving your life in the wind, and you go wherever it blows.
Ladies, every man with a nice smile, who says the right words is not Mr. Right.
Fellas, every woman with a big behind, who does all of the things you like is not Mrs. Right.
Just because it looks good, sounds good, and feels good, does not mean that it is good.
If you keep falling for the same thing, and you keep getting caught up in the same relationship over and over again. It has nothing to do with luck and everything to do with you.
Monday, October 21, 2013
#1. God. It takes a strong man or woman to surrender their lives, and unapologetically serve God.
#2. Love. Enough said. A relationship without love is like a bird without wings. It will never rise to new heights or realize its full potential.
#3. Honesty. You should never have to find out anything by accident. Someone who is truely honest will open up their closet door and show you each and every skeleton.
#4. Maturity. I cannot stress this one enough. Maturity is required to succeed at everything on this list.
#5. Employment. Love can't pay the bills or put food on the table. Only a steady paycheck or two will keep the lights on.
#6. Ambition. Do they want more out of life, and are they actively doing anything to get more out of life.
#7. Family life. The way they were raised, and who raised them plays a huge part in who they are. Pay special attention to how they treat their parents.
#8. Self esteem. It's impossible for someone to love you if they don't love themselves.
#9. Patience. Besides being a virtue, it comes in handy on the days when you're no so easy to love.
#10. Potential. But, potentisl can be overrated if you're not realistic. If you think that he or she has the potential to be a good husband or wife once they stop cheating, it qualifies as unrealistic potential. If this person has a profession or a skill that they are passionate about, and are ambitious enough to pursue it, that qualifies as authentic potential, and it is worth investing your time and your love.
Friday, October 18, 2013
Yes there are two different kinds of crazy. There's crazy in love, when all that you can do is think about the one you love, and you know that they're thinking about you. Even when you're not thinking about them, you think about ways to make them happy.
Then there's the kind of crazy in love when you stand outside of someones house in the rain waiting for there company to leave so that you can play your position as second fiddle.
Choose wisely !
Sunday, October 13, 2013
The PRBrown Report
Being married is an adventure. At least it should be. Sharing each others lives and satisfying each others needs can be difficult at times but those of us who are truly committed, stick with it, get better, and we become pretty good at it. I am not on expert on marriage, or an expert when it comes to women. To be quite honest they always have been and always will be a mystery to me. So rather than trying to unravel and decipher the proclivities of an entire gender, I decided that it was best for me to put my effort into the women that I married. Given the fact that she has not taken the kids and run away, or absconded with my vast fortune, I guess that I must be doing something right.
Although women are different there are some things that are universal, and can go a long way when it comes to maintaining a successful marriage.
But when there are children, work, activities, and individual personal issues involved it can be easy to lose focus every now and then.
Here are 6 simple things that can help make her happy to come home.
1. Greet her with a kiss and or hug as soon as she come home. This shows her how happy you are to see her and how much you missed her.
2. Ask her how her day was, and actually LISTEN to the answer. Asking just for the sake of asking and not paying attention to the answer is worse than not asking at all.
3. If she comes in with a few bags, help her with them immediately. This should go without saying. But we don't always think about the details.
4. Always tell her how beautiful, pretty, cute, and gorgeous she looks. You knowing it, and her knowing that you know it is not the same as letting her know it. If you don't, somebody else will!
5. Help her with the kids. By saying "help her", kind of gives the connotation that the kids are primarily her responsibility.
This simply should not be. Take the lead when it comes to the children sometimes. Cook dinner, serve the food. Read the kids a bed time story, clean up. Details!
6. If she says that she's tired, believe her. She won't always be tired. If she is, repeat steps 1-5.
If that doesn't work.............you need more help than I can offer. Professional help.
There is no such thing is a perfect relationship because none if us are perfect people. With that being said, there will always be times when you and your mate will disagree. It is at these times that your love, patience and understanding will be tested.
If you're an adult, a mature adult, you understand that we do not love because we see perfection in someone. But we love because we have learned to embrace who this person is, imperfections and all.
Another thing that we learn is that we do not have to win every disagreement, or argument. Often times if it is not a matter of life, and death, or a disaster that will bring the world to an end, it is best just to let it go. Every potential battle is not worth fighting unless your intention is to go to war. We've all been there before. Most of us have argued and fought at some point with someone in our lives, and all it did was escalate and instead of accomplish.
This may sound like an odd comparison especially given the fact that it's a different kind of fighting. But in "Enter The Dragon" when Bruce Lee was asked by a protagonist what his style of fighting is, his reply was, "The style of fighting without fighting."
It's kept me up at night, and it's made me sleep like a baby.
It has given me complete peace, and it's driven me crazy.
It has made my whole body feel warm, and at times sent a chill through my bones.
It has even caused me to be lonely, and to never be alone.
For all of its subtle nuances, there is still nothing better than......sensual heat, wrapped in the sheets of.................
Wednesday, October 9, 2013
It is easier to find love if you're not looking, because love just happens. Trying to make love happen is like trying to make sunshine. You can have the best intentions in the world, and still make rain.
Compatibility on a computer screen is way too logical for love. Besides, left to your own devices you might just find out how high the price is. When you believe what somebody says they are, and you don't really know who they are. No matter how much time you spend on Black Planet, you just can't plan it, and you just might end up with someone from another planet.
Look for ways to love yourself, and love will come to you.
Being Black in America is unlike any other experience in the world, and when you find someone to ride with you on this journey you it requires massive amounts of love, patience, and understanding.
Loving, when loving isn't easy, and giving when you feel like you have nothing left to give. That is true love.
Candy poured over bountiful curves wrapped in my ebony arms.
Engulfed in meant to be.
Living the dream that is you and me.........I've fallen, I keep falling, and I don't ever want to stop.
Monday, October 7, 2013
It's the same old song. If you were on the outside looking in at blackness you would think that there is not one good Black man left on earth. Partially because of the media. But part of it is because of the fact that it has become a popular complaint amongst Black women.
Each one accompanied by stories about an endless parade of loser's who sold them dreams, and ended up giving them a nightmare instead.
While I'll be the first to admit, that there are a ton of jerks, psychos, cheaters, and serial heart breakers, there are also a lot of good black men out there.
Ladies you need to ask yourselves two questions
#1. What is a good Black man?
#2. Are you a good Black woman?
Some women wouldn't know a good black man if he came gift wrapped from Jesus and left on their doorsteps.
But it goes both ways. There is a whole generation of males, some of whom are way over 21, who do know how to be a half way decent man much less a good man.
So, how do you recognize a good black man? The most important part of Black love is loving yourself. Until you learn how to have a love affair with yourself, you will continue to look for that missing piece to make you whole. Many women settle for the loser parade because they don't believe that they are winners.
Opposites attracting is a myth. We are often drawn to what we know, what we can identify with, and what we are.
Saturday, October 5, 2013
In order to know what black love is, first we have to understand what black love is not. Black love cannot and will not be found between your legs, and it does not begin with penetration and end in orgasm.
Despite what you've heard, Black love should NEVER hurt. Being battered, beat and bruised is not what love is about. Love is not something that can be pounded into you by frustrated fists that don't have a clue.
Why Black love? Because it has almost become something of a myth. With 75 percent of all Black households being run by women. It almost seems as if this special kind of love is headed for extinction. But the fact of the matter is that is still exists, it can still be found, and it can still thrive. Black love begins with loving who you are, embracing who you are, and appreciating the journey.
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