Friday, November 29, 2013
Sometimes its best to just BE. Don't try to figure your significant other out, or understand each and every subtle difference. Just love them and realize that there are some things about them that you will never understand. There may even be some things that you don't want to understand. But love them anyway. Trust me, whether you choose to recognize it or not, you are probably as much of a puzzle as they are, and maybe even a little more complicated than you think.
Do not expect to always be understood, and don't always try to understand.
Monday, November 25, 2013
Saturday, November 23, 2013
Black love is not just about couples, and adult relationships. It's also about family. Children are the ultimate expression of love. They are the living, breathing embodiment of two people joining together to create life. Children are a huge responsibility, and their development and maturation requires nurturing, caring, and most of all, love.
But raising children ALWAYS involves making tough decisions. Decisions made in love.
As parents we should not be afraid to make those decisions as long as it's in our children's best interest to do so.
The prison system is full of adults whose parents were not willing to make the sometimes, unpopular choices that would have changed the course of their children's lives. We must always ask ourselves, what we can do to give our children the brightest future possible.
Wednesday, November 20, 2013
Sometimes love is hard to read. Anyone can say that they love you. But how many people really mean it, and how can you measure their sincerity. It's easy to get caught up in the physical aspect of a relationship and mistake it for something that it is not. So how can you tell if the person you're involved with is really into you or really loves you?
#1. They are not constantly trying to figure out ways to sleep with you. Actually people like this want to do everything, and anything to your body except sleep next to it. If they really care about you, waiting won't matter because they realize that you have so much more to offer than a warm body.
#2. They would rather give than receive. This is a sign of selflessness. Putting your needs before someone else's is the ultimate show of affection.
#3. They listen when you need a shoulder to cry on. Listening is one of the most important parts of a successful relationship.
Monday, November 18, 2013
We all have money concerns from time to time. I won't use the phrase "money problems" because if you're able to pay all of the bills in your 3 or 4 bedroom house, and fill up your SUV you don't really have money problems, just money concerns. The problem is, many of us, this writer included, spend so much time being concerned with money that sometimes we don't realize how rich we already are.
We live in a "more" culture that never encourages gratitude, thankfulness, or contentment, and it is easy to fall into this state of mind. Whenever you find yourself thinking that your relationship or your life is not enough, think about this. There is someone in your life right now who would be glad to have your wife. There is someone in your life right now who would be glad to have your husband. Flaws, skeleton's and all. You may complain about being nagged or aggravated but there is a lonely woman raising children all alone who wishes that they had just a little help, and there is a man buying "home cooked" meals from Walmart who wishes that he had a nagging, cooking, caring, considerate wife, so that he wouldn't have to line up at the deli counter every night, and wake up alone every morning.
Riches are not always about money. But about the things that money cannot measure.
Wednesday, November 13, 2013
We all know how important it is to love your significant other. After all that is what makes them our significant other.
But it is equally important that you like one another. Love and like are to different things, and love does not automatically equal like. It should, but unfortunately it does not. Many people fall in love with who they think someone is, only to find out weeks, months, or even years later that they fell in love with a figment of their imagination. They end up staying involved because they believe that the qualities once exhibited by their mate are just below the surface, and they linger hoping for a glimpse of the one that they love. The problem is, often times theiir significant other has lost interest in pretending, and have become settled in the relationship. Yet some, still hang on to hope that the jerk that they sleep next to every night is really the original that they fell in love with.
Mean while they have to put effort enough liking them.
Points to ponder.
Sunday, November 10, 2013
Clouds draped around my body.
That's what it feels like when you wrap your chocolate around me.
We start to paint a picture with slow brush strokes until we become a sleeping masterpiece.
I wake up wishing that the night would continue into the morning. But the clock is calling.
We have 16 hours until we meet in bed again. Makes me wish even more that last night would never end.
Saturday, November 9, 2013
If you're still trying to put it all together, then how can you add a piece that ain't you?
It's kind of like wishing without work, and then trying to create something new.
How can you know what you want if you really don't know who your are?
It's kind of like opening your bare hands trying to catch a falling star.
Although it doesn't look like much, it's just too big for your hands to hold.
Still trying to use another heart to pour some life into that hole in your soul.
But guess what.......only you can fill it. Learn you, know you, love you, show you. There is no greater joy than being emursed in the whole, entire you.
Thursday, November 7, 2013
Deal breakers are things that you just won't put up with. Knowing what they are is a sure sign that you are mature enough to know your limitations and smart enough to understand who you are. Some deal beakers are idiosyncratic, and depend on your personal feelings, and others are just so inexcusable that they are just unacceptable. Here are the top five.
1. Over 30, (I'm being generous), and still lives with his or her parents. This says a lot about about ambition, and drive or lack there of.
2. No job, no plan, and no idea how to get or execute either one. What kind of future can you possibly have with this person?
3. Secret children (self explanatory).
4. Having a secret lover, unless it is part of your deal. In that case, you need Jesus, and maybe some extensive therapy.
5. Androgyny. If they're not sure what they are or what they want to be there should have never been a deal in the first place. There is nothing more indecisive. Besides the only one who is allowed to be a little androgynous is Prince.
Saturday, November 2, 2013
Your flesh is God's canvas, and he created a masterpiece.
So much more than flesh and bone, perfected hair and dark skinned tone.
You are that woman.
Thick,heart shaped lips pursed with breath too sweet to hold, waiting to kiss mine.
Curves made for my hands to touch.
Body made for my arms to hold.
And words so sweet & tender that my knees get weak whenever you use them.
You are my meant to be.