Tuesday, July 22, 2014

Does It Cost A Lot Of Money To Be Married?

Does it take a lot of money to be married is a good question. The person did not ask does it take a lot of money to “get” married, that’s an easy question to answer. No, the question asked was much harder. Does it take a lot of money to be married – that is a tough one because “a lot” of money is very relative, there are also many different variables that come into play.

Things such as these make a difference – where you live, how you live, how well do you budget money, are there children involved, what are your monthly expenses, do you have a car note, are you employed at a job that covers a least a portion of health insurance – this list can go on and on without ending.

Money is no substitute for love, as well, love cannot be bought. However, it sure does make life a lot easier when you have enough money to meet your basic needs and some left over to go out and buy an ice cream cone if you want one. Money is not what a marriage is built on, yet a marriage needs money as a tool to support the family.

Love is a beautiful thing that can lead to making decisions based on heartfelt emotions.  Wisdom has to play a role in decision making processes as well, because no matter how beautiful love is, it will not buy groceries. That takes money.When looking at statistical data, many marriages end in divorce because of money issues. You have to admit money plays a big role in our lives. The lack of money causes challenges in an individual’s life, just imagine the challenges it can produce in the lives of a married couple. Many of us have faced these challenges and would not wish them on our worst enemy. Some of us are still going through. The victory of overcoming money problems can strengthen a family unit. Yet, much data shows it can also tear it apart.

Does it take a lot of money to be married – this is a good question filled with curiosity and a desire to be prepared. However, there is no concrete answer.

To come close to answering the question it would take detailed budgeting, laying out each partner’s current financial status, delving into spending habits, deciding how monies will be spent and allocated as a couple, talking about future goals and aspirations, transparency and honestly from both partners, and so much more.


Unwrap The Love

Some gifts should be unwrapped slowly.............


Saturday, July 19, 2014

10 Habits Of Happy Couples

Dr. Mark Goulston is psychiatrist, international speaker, and best selling author of books such as Just Listen: Discover the Secret to getting Through to Absolutely Anyone, The 6 Secrets of a Lasting Relationship: How to Fall in Love Again…and Stay ThereREAL INFLUENCE: Persuade Without Pushing and Gain Without Giving In, Get Out of Your Own Way, and Get Out of Your Own Way at Work. 

His post 10 Habits of Happy Couples offers valuable tips to will help you improve your relationship.

Happy couples know that the real relationship begins when the honeymoon is over. They know that unless you maintain the garden of love, its beauty will wither and die.

#1. Go to bed at the same time.
Remember the beginning of your relationship, when you couldn’t wait to go to bed with each other to make love? Happy couples resist the temptation to go to bed at different times. They go to bed at the same time, even if one partner wakes up later to do things while their partner sleeps. And when their skins touch it still causes each of them to tingle and unless one or both are completely exhausted to feel sexually excited.

#2. Cultivate common interests.
After the passion settles down, it’s common to realize that you have few interests in common. But don’t minimize the importance of activities you can do together that you both enjoy. If common interests are not present, happy couples develop them. At the same time, be sure to cultivate interests of your own; this will make you more interesting to your mate and prevent you from appearing too dependent.

#3. Walk hand in hand or side by side.

Rather than one partner lagging or dragging behind the other, happy couples walk comfortably hand in hand or side by side. They know it’s more important to be with their partner than to see the sights along the way.

#4. Make trust and forgiveness your default mode.

If and when they have a disagreement or argument, and if they can’t resolve it, happy couples default to trusting and forgiving rather than distrusting and begrudging.

#5. Focus more on what your partner does right than what he or she does wrong.

If you look for things your partner does wrong, you can always find something. If you look for what he or she does right, you can always find something, too. It all depends on what you want to look for. Happy couples accentuate the positive.

#6. Hug each other as soon as you see each other after work.

Our skin has a memory of “good touch” (loved), “bad touch” (abused) and “no touch” (neglected). Couples who say hello with a hug keep their skin bathed in the “good touch,” which can inoculate your spirit against anonymity in the world.

 #7. Say “I love you” and “Have a good day” every morning.

This is a great way to buy some patience and tolerance as each partner sets out each day to battle traffic jams, long lines and other annoyances.

#8. Say “Good night” every night, regardless of how you feel.

This tells your partner that, regardless of how upset you are with him or her, you still want to be in the relationship. It says that what you and your partner have is bigger than any single upsetting incident.

#9. Do a “weather” check during the day.

Call your partner at home or at work to see how his or her day is going. This is a great way to adjust expectations so that you’re more in sync when you connect after work. For instance, if your partner is having an awful day, it might be unreasonable to expect him or her to be enthusiastic about something good that happened to you.

#10. Be proud to be seen with your partner.

Happy couples are pleased to be seen together and are often in some kind of affectionate contact — hand on hand or hand on shoulder or knee or back of neck. They are not showing off but rather just saying that they belong with each other.


Can You See!

Everybody will eventually show you exactly who they are. But it is up to you to see for yourself.


Sunday, July 13, 2014

3 Signs That He/She Is Not Marriage Material

1. The only one they truly care about is themselves. This should be obvious. When you need them they're  never around, and when you ask them for help they do so only if it does not interfer with their needs.

2. They don't have anything. They don't  know how to do anything, and they don't want anything. Ambition is important in a marriage because a huge part of a successful marriage is progress. Not just financial or emotional progress. But progression in the form of maturation. The key is, desire. There has to be a desire to grow and an ambition to succeed.

3. They disrespect their parents. I can't stress this enough. A man who disrespects his mother, will not respect you. Mainly because he has little or no idea how to. It's like giving him a new bike and forcing him to ride it when he's never learned how to balance himself on the old one.


Thursday, July 10, 2014

It doesn't end!


Tuesday, July 8, 2014


Passion reigns in the shower and the water runs over both bodies in endless streams and steam on warm flesh like heat from fire.
But when it's over at 1:23 AM  will he/she hurry up and leave?
After all you've already given them absolutely all that you have to offer. Why would they stay? Are you worth more?
If you know it, they should also. Love is not a game. Don't let yourself be a pawn or piece to be used by anyone who wants to play.