Saturday, December 27, 2014

So Much More

Black love is more than words can say
Though sometimes I try to come to to expressing the sheer joy that it brings me.
Waking up each and every morning with it lying next to me is like going through life with a never ending sweet treat.
Soft to the touch of my black hands, and rich to what my palate tastes.

It is the reason why I rise before the sun and journey across desolate highways to participate in a sherade with fools day after day. 
It allows me to get back to quiet moments when I can lay at the top of my bed with head perch atop to pillows and look down at the real thing like the picture above.


Friday, December 19, 2014


During a lunch table discussion today me and a few of my co-workers were talking about relationships. Of course, everybody  had their own unique perspective. But the common thread that I noticed throughout was the fact that everybody talked about what they wanted from their relationships. But only a few talked about what they could put into their relationship. My take is simple.......
A relationship is like a bank. You can only get out of it what you put into it. You can't deposit a penny and take out a fortune!
A relationship is like a bank. You can only get out of it what you put into it. You can't deposit a penny and take out a fortune!


Wednesday, November 26, 2014


Family, food, and possessions are all blessings. But more than all of these things, I thank God for the love of my life!


Tuesday, November 18, 2014

Thursday, November 6, 2014


A good man or a good woman will always do what it takes to help you win!


Wednesday, October 8, 2014

Monday, September 29, 2014

The Depth Of The Ocean

99.9% of the time we only see what people want us to see. Many present an image of perfection and some of us fall for it. We use their relationships as a yard stick by which all others should be measured. But do we really ever know what we think we know? The fact of the matter is that complexities become such because of their dept. It is impossible to see the bottom of the ocean by looking at the surface. All that we see is water. But we don't see what lives deep inside of that body of water. Relationships are the same. We cannot judge the depth by just looking at the surface.


Saturday, September 27, 2014

Saturday, September 6, 2014

3 Ways To Stay In Love

1. Remember why you fell in love.
2. Focus on the positive attributes of your mate.
3. Spend quality time with the one you love. There is nothing more precious than time.

Sunday, August 17, 2014

IS Money better THAN LOVE?

Is money better than love?
Money cannot keep you warm at night or ask you about your day.
Money can't calm you and assure you that God will make a way.
Money cannot please you during lonely nights in bed.
Money cannot comfort you when your heart is filled with dread.
Money without love means nothing!

Wednesday, August 13, 2014

Time Spent

There is nothing like spending sweet time with the one you love!

Monday, August 11, 2014

The Secret Feelings Of Men.

Men are human. Even though we like to think of ourselves as super heroes, the truth is, we are all just as vulnerable as anyone else. We have feelings emotions, insecurities, and needs that we don't often mention. No, it's not what you're thinking, and contrary to popular belief most of us are not that shallow or superficial. 
The 3 secrets I am about reveal in this text are just the tip of the iceberg. They are by no means, all encompassing, but more of a truncated list designed to give women insight, and perhaps a better understanding of what's on her mans mind.

1. We want to be desired. Making love is wonderful, and contrary to popular belief those of us who are married or in committed long term relationship love to feel wanted. Not just in word, but in deed. We like nothing better than to know that our wives want us just as much as we want them.

2. We love validation. Just like the women in our lives, we love to be appreciated, adored, and valued. Sometimes words are as good as gold.

3. Even when we're exhausted we won't stop. As men we feel as if we are indespensable to our families, and in many ways we are. But even though we won't admitt it, being everything to everbody can be like having a second full time job sometimes. We love fo be made to rest.


Wednesday, August 6, 2014

Staying In Love

Falling in love is easy. But is it harder to stay in love? 

The perception of falling in love is based on what you think you know. Staying in love means accepting those thinks that you didn't know and embracing the qualities that make you fall in love in the first place.

 Staying in love requires loving your mate for who they are.


Tuesday, July 22, 2014

Does It Cost A Lot Of Money To Be Married?

Does it take a lot of money to be married is a good question. The person did not ask does it take a lot of money to “get” married, that’s an easy question to answer. No, the question asked was much harder. Does it take a lot of money to be married – that is a tough one because “a lot” of money is very relative, there are also many different variables that come into play.

Things such as these make a difference – where you live, how you live, how well do you budget money, are there children involved, what are your monthly expenses, do you have a car note, are you employed at a job that covers a least a portion of health insurance – this list can go on and on without ending.

Money is no substitute for love, as well, love cannot be bought. However, it sure does make life a lot easier when you have enough money to meet your basic needs and some left over to go out and buy an ice cream cone if you want one. Money is not what a marriage is built on, yet a marriage needs money as a tool to support the family.

Love is a beautiful thing that can lead to making decisions based on heartfelt emotions.  Wisdom has to play a role in decision making processes as well, because no matter how beautiful love is, it will not buy groceries. That takes money.When looking at statistical data, many marriages end in divorce because of money issues. You have to admit money plays a big role in our lives. The lack of money causes challenges in an individual’s life, just imagine the challenges it can produce in the lives of a married couple. Many of us have faced these challenges and would not wish them on our worst enemy. Some of us are still going through. The victory of overcoming money problems can strengthen a family unit. Yet, much data shows it can also tear it apart.

Does it take a lot of money to be married – this is a good question filled with curiosity and a desire to be prepared. However, there is no concrete answer.

To come close to answering the question it would take detailed budgeting, laying out each partner’s current financial status, delving into spending habits, deciding how monies will be spent and allocated as a couple, talking about future goals and aspirations, transparency and honestly from both partners, and so much more.


Unwrap The Love

Some gifts should be unwrapped slowly.............


Saturday, July 19, 2014

10 Habits Of Happy Couples

Dr. Mark Goulston is psychiatrist, international speaker, and best selling author of books such as Just Listen: Discover the Secret to getting Through to Absolutely Anyone, The 6 Secrets of a Lasting Relationship: How to Fall in Love Again…and Stay ThereREAL INFLUENCE: Persuade Without Pushing and Gain Without Giving In, Get Out of Your Own Way, and Get Out of Your Own Way at Work. 

His post 10 Habits of Happy Couples offers valuable tips to will help you improve your relationship.

Happy couples know that the real relationship begins when the honeymoon is over. They know that unless you maintain the garden of love, its beauty will wither and die.

#1. Go to bed at the same time.
Remember the beginning of your relationship, when you couldn’t wait to go to bed with each other to make love? Happy couples resist the temptation to go to bed at different times. They go to bed at the same time, even if one partner wakes up later to do things while their partner sleeps. And when their skins touch it still causes each of them to tingle and unless one or both are completely exhausted to feel sexually excited.

#2. Cultivate common interests.
After the passion settles down, it’s common to realize that you have few interests in common. But don’t minimize the importance of activities you can do together that you both enjoy. If common interests are not present, happy couples develop them. At the same time, be sure to cultivate interests of your own; this will make you more interesting to your mate and prevent you from appearing too dependent.

#3. Walk hand in hand or side by side.

Rather than one partner lagging or dragging behind the other, happy couples walk comfortably hand in hand or side by side. They know it’s more important to be with their partner than to see the sights along the way.

#4. Make trust and forgiveness your default mode.

If and when they have a disagreement or argument, and if they can’t resolve it, happy couples default to trusting and forgiving rather than distrusting and begrudging.

#5. Focus more on what your partner does right than what he or she does wrong.

If you look for things your partner does wrong, you can always find something. If you look for what he or she does right, you can always find something, too. It all depends on what you want to look for. Happy couples accentuate the positive.

#6. Hug each other as soon as you see each other after work.

Our skin has a memory of “good touch” (loved), “bad touch” (abused) and “no touch” (neglected). Couples who say hello with a hug keep their skin bathed in the “good touch,” which can inoculate your spirit against anonymity in the world.

 #7. Say “I love you” and “Have a good day” every morning.

This is a great way to buy some patience and tolerance as each partner sets out each day to battle traffic jams, long lines and other annoyances.

#8. Say “Good night” every night, regardless of how you feel.

This tells your partner that, regardless of how upset you are with him or her, you still want to be in the relationship. It says that what you and your partner have is bigger than any single upsetting incident.

#9. Do a “weather” check during the day.

Call your partner at home or at work to see how his or her day is going. This is a great way to adjust expectations so that you’re more in sync when you connect after work. For instance, if your partner is having an awful day, it might be unreasonable to expect him or her to be enthusiastic about something good that happened to you.

#10. Be proud to be seen with your partner.

Happy couples are pleased to be seen together and are often in some kind of affectionate contact — hand on hand or hand on shoulder or knee or back of neck. They are not showing off but rather just saying that they belong with each other.


Can You See!

Everybody will eventually show you exactly who they are. But it is up to you to see for yourself.


Sunday, July 13, 2014

3 Signs That He/She Is Not Marriage Material

1. The only one they truly care about is themselves. This should be obvious. When you need them they're  never around, and when you ask them for help they do so only if it does not interfer with their needs.

2. They don't have anything. They don't  know how to do anything, and they don't want anything. Ambition is important in a marriage because a huge part of a successful marriage is progress. Not just financial or emotional progress. But progression in the form of maturation. The key is, desire. There has to be a desire to grow and an ambition to succeed.

3. They disrespect their parents. I can't stress this enough. A man who disrespects his mother, will not respect you. Mainly because he has little or no idea how to. It's like giving him a new bike and forcing him to ride it when he's never learned how to balance himself on the old one.


Thursday, July 10, 2014

It doesn't end!


Tuesday, July 8, 2014


Passion reigns in the shower and the water runs over both bodies in endless streams and steam on warm flesh like heat from fire.
But when it's over at 1:23 AM  will he/she hurry up and leave?
After all you've already given them absolutely all that you have to offer. Why would they stay? Are you worth more?
If you know it, they should also. Love is not a game. Don't let yourself be a pawn or piece to be used by anyone who wants to play.


Saturday, June 28, 2014

Different Black Love

This brings back memories! Sitting in our living room watching my mother passionately work on my sisters hair for what seemed like forever.

If this isn't Black love, I don't know what it!!!!


Monday, June 23, 2014

Nothing BETTER Than Love

There is nothing better than love.
The sun rising over the ocean is pales in comparison.

There is nothing better than love.
Every star shining on a beautiful night so clear, or fireworks lighting the sky on a fresh happy new year.

There is nothing better than love.
Not a pocket full of money, or sex as sweet as honey.
Kisses during time alone, or quiet moments when no one else is home.

There is nothing better than love.
Not Friday nights, not neon lights.
Not food for free. Not A through Z.

There is absolutely, positively nothing better than......


Wednesday, June 18, 2014


If you spend your days as if they are nothing more than long moments in between making love to your husband....

If you spend your days as if they are nothing more than long moments in between making love to your wife.......


Saturday, June 14, 2014


Love is FREE!!!!
But it comes with a price. What are you prepared to sacrifice?

Sunday, June 8, 2014

the taste of love


Wednesday, June 4, 2014

Love or Misery

Love and misery are two different things, and there is wisdom in being able to recognize the difference between the two. If love gives you more tears than smiles then maybe, just maybe, it's not love.

But when love is good!!! Love is great!!!



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Saturday, May 3, 2014

Do You Have A Gorgeous Mind?

Beauty comes in all sizes, shapes, and colors. Embrace yours! Gorgeous is more of a state of mind than anything else.

Change your thinking!

Thursday, May 1, 2014

He Should Show You How Much

It doesn't take a man long to figure out what he wants.
If he really loves you, I mean really loves you, he should show you just how much!

Wednesday, April 30, 2014


Making love is a wonderful thing, and it's a blessing when you're married! So make love wonderful!!


Monday, April 21, 2014

Not just what YOU ARE.

Nobody can tell you who to be. You can have to cultivate the best in you. Work toward destroying the worst in you, and enjoy the journey. There are no greater lessons than the ones learned through self discovery. 
Until you know who you are, no one else will. The love that you need should not only embrace what you are, but who you are. You have to be confident enough to know the difference.


Greener Grass

I saw a movie last weekend. A movie about a good love gone bad because somebody thought that the grass was greener on the other side. It looked good. It was shiny, and pretty with absolutely no substance. In fact, the grass in this story turned out to be more like poison ivy. 
All because somebody lost control of their passion and let their flesh take over. The moral of the story is obvious, or at least it should be.

Everything that looks good to you is not good for you.