Sunday, June 4, 2017


It's not a myth, an after thought, a joke or a mess.
Black love means living here in America and making more out of less.
Less respect, leaves lessons that long live within.
And we’re sustained by Black Love over and over again.


Monday, January 2, 2017

Black Love 2017

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Tuesday, November 29, 2016

Saturday, July 9, 2016

Man & Wife.

I love my wife. Point blank! I was born to be her husband and she was born to be my wife, without question. That doesn't mean that this love is perfect, it just means that we were designed to be a part of each others destinies. As a man I understand that one of the elements that makes me effective is the fact that she compliments me. In other words the way she is makes the way I am. She makes me better, greater and stronger than I would dare to be alone. Of course, I would be a man without her. But, what kind of man would I be?


Wednesday, June 8, 2016

6 Persistent Myths About Black Love

I stumbled upon this piece on It sheds light on the reality of black love, and debunks negative, pervasive myths about black love.

MYTH #1: Black people don’t get married.

One of the most pervasive myths about romantic relationships involving black couples is that their relationships rarely end in marriage. The media and society at large propagate this silly misconception. Some researchers, however, denounce this claim, maintaining that properly analyzed  census data would arrive at different conclusions.

Howard University researcher Ivory A. Toldson  says,“The often-cited figure of 42 percent of black women never marrying includes all black women 18 and older.”

After examining census data from 2005 to 2009, Toldson and Bryant Marks of Morehouse College found that 75 percent of black women marry before age 35. Moreover, black women in small towns have higher marriage rates than white women in urban centers such as New York and Los Angeles, Toldson said.

MYTH #2:  Black men, especially the rich ones, choose women of another race over black women.

While plenty of rap stars, athletes and and other celebrities may choose to date or marry interracially after reaching fame, the opposite is true for most successful black men. When it comes to married brothers with six-figure annual incomes,  83 percent of them tied the knot with a sister, according to Toldson’s census research.

In fact, 85 percent of black male college graduates wed black women, and 88 percent of married black men – of all education and income levels – have black wives. It’s safe to say that most brothers still prefer black women over other races

MYTH #3: Black women come with a lot of baggage.

In relationships, black women aren’t the only ones who come with baggage. Generally speaking, the older the person, the more baggage they are likely to have. The question is whether or not a person has learned from past relationships.

MYTH #4: Educated black women are least likely to get married.

The real story is that education increases the likelihood of marriage for both African-American men and women.

Tara Parker-Pope of The New York Timesreported, “Among black women, 70 percent of college graduates are married by 40, whereas only about 60 percent of black high school graduates are married by that age.”

Black men follow the same trend. In 2008, 76 percent of black men with a college degree married by age 40, in contrast to the 63 percent of black men with just a high school diploma.

Furthermore,  Toldson points out black women with college degrees are more likely to marry than white females who never finished.

MYTH #5: Black men don’t earn as much as black women.

The forecast is not nearly as gloomy as it is portrayed by the media. Black women may graduate from college more than black men, but that  doesn’t mean they always bring home bigger pay checks.

In fact, black men are more likely than black women to bring home at least $75,000 annually. Additionally, the number of black men earning at least $250,000 annually is double that of black women. The numbers suggest there are more than enough financially successful black men to go around.

MYTH #6: Black men don’t commit.

The truth is most men desire relationships, but they’re terrified of committing to someone who they feel may make life harder for them. Black men are no different from most men.

The notion that black men are wary of romantic commitments while black women are especially focused on committing, was turned on its head by a recent NPR poll.

According to poll results, single black men were much more likely to say they were looking for a long-term relationship (43 percent) compared to single black women (25 percent).


Saturday, April 9, 2016

Love Your All

There is nothing more wonderful than giving love your all. We cannot live life one itty bitty piece at a time.
We must realize that who we fall in love with is part of a grand design and thank God for keeping us on his mind.
Give love your all!

Sunday, March 6, 2016

Black and Love.

It's an ever burning fire, not easily explained.
It's perfected perfection described by one name.
If I had to use four letters it would be these I suppose.
But as I search the alphabet I can't find any better than those.


Why am I talking about black love? 
It's because in this world.
It's harder for a girl to love a boy and for a boy to love a girl, when where we live is designed to give us nothing grief.
It's takes a special person to dig down and embrace what is beneath.

Black love.