Beneath Your Beautiful

True beauty comes from the inside out. Anything else is just a disguise. Real men can see beneath your beautiful. What will they find when they do?

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That Special Someone

Everyone wants to find that special someone. But does anyone ever ask themselves if they are special enough to keep that special someone. The fact of the matter is. You get what you give. You can call it karma, what goes around comes around, energy, or just the law of the universe.

Too many people desire that special someone yet they have no desire to make themselves special. There is no magical person or being that can make you whole. Only you can do that. Inviting a stranger into your mess just makes that mess bigger.

In order to get what you desire. You must be desirable.

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What Marriage Does.

Too many people get married because they think that it will fix things!

But if a relationship is already broken marriage cannot and will not fix it. All it does is complicate a mess, create a bigger disaster and intensify your misery.

With that being said, marriage can make a good relationship beautiful.

Think about the reasons why you want to pledge your life and promise your love.

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NeVeR eNoUgH !

NEVER

Enough

BLACK

LOVE

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Love Yourself First

This concept may sound a little egotistical, loving yourself first. But it is actually the foundation for loving anyone else. How will you understand or recognize something that is not a part of you? When you learn how to embrace not only your flaws and imperfections, but your own potential, then others will notice your comfortability in your own skin and love you.

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Nothing Like Her

               BLACK BEAUTY

There is nothing like the original women born of Adams rib, and given breath by the hand of God. 

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FIRE!

   Feel the

Feel the

 

    

Feel the 

Of

                     Black Love

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3 Reasons Why You Should Make Time

Cultivating a quality relationship takes nurturing, dedication, patience and time.

But perhaps the most important element is time. Nothing that is of good quality happens in an instant. It has to be crafted, grown and developed to realize its full potential. Jumping into a relationship head first based on anything superficial is like skydiving without a parachute. There's no chance of survival. But certain disaster is inevitable. 

Here are 5 reasons why you should make time for the one you love.

#1. If you don't somebody else will. The same person that you ignore and take for granted is gold to someone else, and they will treasure the one you treat like trash.

#2. There will come a time when you require attention. Attention requires time, and every successful relationship requires some level of reciprocity.

#3. Tomorrow isn't promised to any of us. A million people went to last night believing that tomorrow would be a new day. Not knowing that it would be a new day that they wouldn't live to see. We must treasure each and every moment and take time for love.

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BLACK LOVE IS.........

BLACK LOVE IS.......

BLACK LOVE IS.....

BLACK LOVE IS.........

BLACK LOVE IS.......

3 Reason's Why You Should Google This Guy/Girl

#1. Usually someone who is a loser, will never, ever tell you that they are a loser. The guy who drives a Lexus and lives with his mother will hope, wish, and pray that you'll be enamored with his car enough to overlook the fact that he still writes his name on the orange juice.

#2. Some that you meet will not tell you everything. Like Chris Rock once said, they'll introduce you to their representative. The one that has a job, ambitions, dreams, and goals. Not the real person who has none of the above.

#3. You may be putting your life in jeopardy, if you don't Google them. Everybody has a crazy ex. But nobody everybody admits to being the crazy ex themselves. For all you know you could be dating somebody's crazy ex. You never know.

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Everybody Wants To Win, But Not Everybody Wants To Fight

Most people want to be in love. But most people don't want to fight for it. In America today over 50% of all marriages end in divorce, and in the Black community 75% of all households are headed by Black women. I know that each and every situation is different. But is seems as if people don't value love, or really know what it is to love. If they did, divorce wouldn't be the instant answer to problems in a marriage, and men wouldn't abandon their children, and their mothers because they would realize what an essential commodity their love is to their families. 

True love, real love, is worth fighting for. Regardless of the challenges, hurdles, and impediments that life can bring. 

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1,000 Words

             

         1,000 words not required

Wanting & Waiting

Soft perfume.

Silk voices crooning over a slow saxophone. 

Warm lavender oil hot in my hands bringing a shine to your skin as I massage in concentric circles on your back.

You shiver as my hands move lower, becoming all too aware that my passion is rising.

Your legs move a little further away from each other, and I can see it.......love, passion, excstacy, and perfection all in one place, there for me. 

Waiting and wanting.

Wanting and waiting.

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The Love of Family

I know that many of my readers think of Black love as a romantic notion. But the fact of the matter is that Black love is not just about your husband, your wife, your lover, or your boo thang. It's also about your extended family. That special connection you share with those who have your DNA, your blood line, your ancestry, and your life long memories. These are the people who can tell you what it was like to change your diapers even though you're in your fourties now. These are the people who know you well enough to remind you who you are, what you are and where you're going.

The love of cousins, aunts, uncles, brothers, and sisters is a different love than any other. Not a better love. But a different love because it was always there, and there is nothing you can do to stop it, change it, or block it.

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4 Ways To Set The Mood

#1. Compliment your mate by being attentive to their dreams, and validating their desires.

#2. Do whatever you can to make life a little easier for the one you love. Even when you're tired, hungry and life hasn't been easy for you on that particular day.

#3. Be a good listener even if you don't always hear what they're saying. Remember that listening opens the door to understanding.

#4. Make dinner, serve dinner, and be desert.

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What Love Really Means

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Every now and then you should ask yourself, if you love like this or if you're being loved like this.

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5 Reasons You Should Sleep In Today

There's 5 inches of snow on the ground.

It's 15 degrees outside.

It's going down to 8 degrees. 

& you're in a warm bed with your spouse next to you.

Sleeping in can be a beautiful thing.

Even if you actually decide to sleep.

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How To Make Time For Love

           UNPLUG..........

         

           & PLUG IN........

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BEAUTIFUL, awesome AmAzing

Black love is a beautiful thing once you learn how to embrace it.

Black love is attention to detail and does not begin between your legs.

Black love is not about just being there, but going there, staying there, living there, and giving everything in between.

Black love is awesome times 5 multiplied by 10 with no square root because it is a circle that never ends.

Black love is a dash of him, and a pinch of her, mixed with an ounce of amazing sizzle and served on a platter with a touch of meant to be. Full of fire!

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Being In.........Love

It's like having a special world within this one. So far removed from reality, yet so real you have no idea how you could have ever lived without it.

Being in love.

It's like having each and every holiday wrapped in beautiful brown flesh, then wrapped around you.

Being in love.

It's like the best thing you've ever tasted but better because it is what God prepared especially for you.

Being in love.

It's like every day being a pay day and Saturday with no taxes coming out of your check, and free medical.

Being in love.

It's like having 365 birthday's, 365 days a  year, and having a party to celebrate each and every one.

Being in love.

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A Good Day For Divorce?

Last Sunday was January 12, by far the most wonderful day of the year. It was a bright, sunny day. The sky was clear. We had a wonderful church service, and it was MY birthday. I spent each and every moment of it from sun up to sunset with my lovely wife by my side. So imagine my surprise when I found out that for some 1-12-2014 was a tragic day.

More couples will decided to divorce on January 12 than on any other day of the year, it is claimed.

Lawyers believe many couples whose marriages have reached a breaking point have stuck together over the past year as they calculated whether they could afford to go their separate ways when the economy has not fully recovered from the recession.

They predicted that many couples have stuck together for one last Christmas as a family then split up the week that their children go back to school.

Legal experts are expecting a record number of separating spouses in the New Year because the unemployment rate and the crumbling housing market are still struggling to recover in some parts of the country. This puts relationships under greater strain.

The end of any marriage is a tragedy, and an unending circle should never be broken. 

There is strength in unity, and triumph in perseverance. There is no reward in giving up. Remember why you fell in love.

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Good Day, Better Night.

     

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3 Ways To Tell If You're Being Used

I write about black love for two reasons. Because I love black love and I am black and in love. But no matter who you are it is impossible to be in love with anyone until you learn how to love yourself.

The most important part of loving yourself is being able to recognize when someone doesn't love you the way you deserve to be loved. Unfortunately some people love what you can do for them, and not for who you are. Here are just a few reasons to tell if you are being used.

#1. They only call you when they need, or  want something. These people never call just to see how you feel or how your day was unless it's followed by a sob story to separate you from your hard earned money, precious time, and your sanity.

#2. They're never there when you're in crisis. Rain falls on the just and the unjust, and life is not perfect. When you're going through this person can't even provide so much as a comforting shoulder for you to cry on.

#3. When you ask for a favor either they won't do it, or they're not around for you to ask. You feel alone even when they're there.

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T.L.C. (Tender Loving Care)

I'm lying here congested and in need of some TLC.

I barely open my eyes and you bring that red medicine to me.

I'm tired and I don't feel right, and I pray that I can get enough sleep tonight to feel good enough to go to work.

Breakfast in bed, and even though I said it doesn't matter how you make my eggs, I'm glad you knew how I'd want them anyway.

Got a 2 hour nap in the middle of the day,

With no kids knocking on the door, and nobody asking me to fix a broken this or charge a powered down that.

You love me.

You feed me.

I need you.

You need me.

But I needed you more today.

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The Greatest Love

This new year let us not forget the about the greatest love of all. A love so strong that Jesus Christ gave his life for you and me. As we begin to celebrate this new year we should also celebrate new life.

John 3:16

16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.

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Love This Holiday

This holiday season many people are alone, without love, without peace, and without happiness. That's why it is important that we are thankful for the special people in our lives. Those select few who make each and every day worth living, and make each and every holiday much more precious.

Thank God for love this holiday season, and that God that he loves us.

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Patience

It is arguably the most important part of a relationship. 

Patience by definition means,

The quality of being patient, as the bearing of provocation, annoyance, misfortune, or pain, without complaint, loss of temper, irritation, or the like.

The ability or willingness to suppress restlessness or annoyance when confronted with delay. 

There will be days when it feels like you have none at all, and others when you'll feel as if you have all of the patience in the world. When it comes to your mate it can be particularly challenging to deal with the ups and downs of a relationship.

So it is important to put patience in context. It is important to remember that as imperfect human beings we all require a certain amount of understanding. 

If you want your mate to be patient with you then you will have to be patient with them. Unless you aspire to be in a one sided relationship dominated by your needs, feelings, and emotions. 

One sided relationships never work.

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A Special Occasion

Every day is a special occasion. You opened your eyes, and you enjoyed the gift of life. You got out of bed with the full activity of your limbs, and you are blessed enough to have people in your life who love, and care about you.

Every day may not be a perfect day. 

But every day is a special occasion.

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ONE.

The magic is becoming one. Two whole hearts defying mathematics to become one singular being. A love so rich, and a bond so strong that it's hard to tell where one ends and the other begins. But maybe there was no beginning until they met. Perhaps the rest of the time they were just being shaped, made, and molded for their inevitable one, and then love began on its way to a place called never ending forever more.

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Unconditional Love?

Unconditional love. It sounds good in the context of a romantic relationship. But it is no more than a fictional idea. It is a concept used to create depth within this thing called love. 

But the bottom line is, loving someone in spite of what they do is not at all realistic unless we all have the inclination to reduce ourselves to living, breathing door mats. The fact is, each and every one of us has conditions on our love. You might say that it is possible to separate and love someone from a far. But it's just not sustainable. Everybody has a limit.

There is no such thing as unconditional love. But we must love unconditionally.

Meaning that we must condition ourselves not to do anything to put our relationships in jeopardy. We must condition our hearts and minds so that we don't engage in behavior that forces our mate to contemplate the validity of the relationship.

There has to be a determination to see love through with a tenacity and dedication that overcomes all of our doubts and fears to be triumphant and perservere.

There is no such thing as unconditional love but we must love unconditionally.

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Mandela

           PURE BLACK LOVE

                  ENOUGH SAID

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An Action Word.

Nothing in life that is worth having comes easy.

Such is love. Far too many people are so desperate for love that they create a version of it that is non-existant. But a version of love is not really love at all. Love is not something that can be tailor made from a longing to possess the emotion. Some, fall in love with the idea of being in love. But not all ideas are good ideas, especially if the object of your affection does not feel the same as you do. Saying those three words is a small part of love. 

Love is an action word. 

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Watch

These are profound rules to love by and live by.

Watch your thoughts, they become words.

Watch your words, they become actions.

Watch your actions, they become habits.

Watch your habits, they become character.

Watch your character it becomes your destiny.

                                           -Laori

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